Today's Groovy Flashback celebrates the 62nd birthday of Debra Winger (who was born on May 16, 1955) by featuring 20 Questions with the actress from the June 1983 issue of Playboy.
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
15 Ways You Can Stay Safe On Grindr And Other Dating Apps
From: Pink News
Following the news that 4 guys used Grindr to kidnap, beat and rob gay men in Texas, it is a good time to go through some tips to stay safe on dating apps.
Whether it’s Grindr, Growlr, Her, Hornet, Scruff or Tinder, there’s nothing strange about using a phone app to find dates and sex.
Millions of people use these apps every day, the vast majority without any incident – but as two more men are convicted of murdering people they met on dating apps, the need to be cautious is real.
Check out the top tips for dating app safety:
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If you’re meeting up, get their real name.
“Dom Top” might have got your attention in the app, but the chances they’re really called Dominic are slim. Ask the prospective lover for their identity: get their Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.
5 Things Mike Pence Doesn’t Want LGBT People To Know!
How many of these anti-gay facts about Mike Pence do you know?
By: Conrad Braxton
From: Gay Pop Buzz
By: Conrad Braxton
From: Gay Pop Buzz
Donald Trump made his VP Mike Pence and he’s the former Governor of Indiana.
If his name sounds familiar, it’s probably because he’s been attached to a number of anti-gay initiatives – with the most notable one in 2015.
Aside from Pence being the Hoosier state’s Guv, he was previously a six term congressman. During that time, he helped to bring about a culture of hate against those who identify as LGBT.
Here is just one of his many anti-gay statements he’s made over the years. This one was made about gay people serving in the U.S. Armed Forces:
“Homosexuality is incompatible with military service because the presence of homosexuals in the ranks weakens unit cohesion.”
But that’s nothing! What follows are 5 things about Mike Pence that he doesn’t want LGBT people to know. Be sure to share with your friends and those who support equality rights.
Let’s jump right in!
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He’s the “Religious Freedom” zealot from Indiana
Mike Pence became a household name when he signed into law the infamous “religious freedom bill” back in 2015. Pence claimed it would “extend legal protections to Indiana business owners” who did not want to participate in same-sex marriage ceremonies.
After a mountain of pressure from private citizens and corporations, he was forced to sign an amendment that essentially said it wasn’t OK to discriminate against LGBTQ persons.
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He rejected Obama administration’s directive on transgender bathrooms
As reported in Time,
“In May, the federal government directed school districts to allow students to use the bathroom of the gender they identify with. The directive came as criticism crescendoed around a North Carolina law that would have restricted the use of bathrooms.Along with many other conservatives, Pence opposed Obama’s directive and said it was a state issue. ‘The federal government has not business getting involved in issues of this nature'”
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He thinks gay couples will trigger a societal collapse
According to a report in Time Magazine, Mike Pence said in a speech, “Societal collapse was always brought about following an advent of the deterioration of marriage and family.”
In that same speech, Pence also called being gay a choice and share with his audience that, “Keeping gays from marrying was not discrimination, but an enforcement of God’s idea.”
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He wanted to keep “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”
Mike Pence favored the longtime military policy of not letting soldiers openly identify as gay.
In 2010, he told CNN in an interview that he did not want to see the military become “a backdrop for social experimentation.” Thankfully, the policy ended in 2011.
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He’s against the Employment Non-Discrimination Act
The Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) was proposed to ban discrimination against individuals based on their sexual orientation.
Mike Pence voted against that law in 2007 and later said the law “wages war on freedom and religion in the workplace.”
More than 20 years after the bill was first introduced, the Senate approved the proposal in 2013, but the bill failed in the House.
Summary
This is just a small sampling of the Vice President’s anti-gay rhetoric and history. To think is a heartbeat away from the presidency should concern all people – gay or straight.
Mike Pence is no friend to LGBT Americans. And his record on women’s’ reproductive rights is also – well – scary.
“Last Man Standing” Fan Goes On Homophobic Rant When Show Is Canceled
Debbie Massey blames gay people for helping to get her favorite show kicked off the air
From: NewNowNext
From: NewNowNext
The news that ABC decided not to renew Tim Allen’s sitcom Last Man Standing for a seventh season did not sit well with the executive director of the Madison-Rivergate Chamber of Commerce in Nashville, to say the least.
When Debbie Massey found out that her favorite show had been canceled, she took to Facebook to vent her frustration over the announcement in an irate rant.
Massey said she feels discriminated against because ABC is “cramming same-sex making out into our homes,” but yet, she is unable to watch her favorite show.
Massey is suggesting that ABC canceled the show out of fear that gay people would sue the network for not including any same-sex kissing in the sitcom.
In addition to the rant, Massey posted a Breitbart article declaring Last Man Standing was axed because of Allen’s conservative political views.
Meanwhile, ABC also just canceled The Real O’Neals, the family sitcom about a gay teen who is freshly out of the closet, which does little to help Massey’s unique theory.
Nashville’s mayor released a statement over the weekend assuring the city that Massey’s words do not reflect the views of the district she represents. By Monday, Massey had resigned from her position after the chamber’s board of directors voted to request her resignation.
“It Gets Better” Is Bad Advice For Gay Kids, Study Claims
"Asking youth to accept negative experiences as the only coping strategy potentially exacerbates stress," claims researchers at the University of Arizona
From: NewNowNext
From: NewNowNext
The It Gets Better projects was launched by Dan Savage and Terry Miller in 2010, in response to a chilling number of suicides by LGBT teens facing bullying. Sine then, it’s added more than 50,000 videos from people of all walks of life.
But a new study suggests imagining a better future may not be an ideal coping mechanism for struggling teens—and may, in fact, do more harm than good.
University of Arizona professor Russell Toomey and his team examined profiles of 245 lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) young adults to see how they coped with sexual-minority stress during adolescence. Three common strategies emerged: Cognitive strategies (the “It Gets Better” approach), alternative-seeking strategies (changing social circles or schools), and “LGB-specific” strategies (joining a gay-straight alliance).
Young people who sought out LGB-specific strategies reported better psychosocial adjustment and were more likely to graduate high school. Cognitive and alternative-seeking strategies were associated with poorer adjustment, higher incidents of depression and lower self-esteem. Alternative-seeking strategies were even linked to lower likelihood of finishing high school.
“Our findings question the ’It Gets Better’ narrative that’s been given to LGB youth,” said Toomey. “Asking youth to accept negative experiences as the only coping strategy potentially exacerbates stress.”
Alternative-seeking strategies, like changing schools, put the onus on the victim, says Toomey.
“The child who has a different sexuality or gender identity expression is then labeled as the problem instead of really addressing the issue,” he explains. “Alternative-seeking strategies involve finding new spaces to thrive in, rather than coping with the space that you’re in… Our results find that that’s associated with more depressive symptoms, less self-esteem and less satisfaction in life.”
Being able to connect with out young queer people is always a good thing, but its not always an option—especially for kids in rural areas or in religious schools where there is no GSA. In some instances, discussing the situation with parents or teachers could exacerbate the stress. There may always be a need for the “it gets better” approach, even if it’s not the ideal strategy.
“Everybody needs support, and it’s really important, particularly in adolescence, to find other people who are like you, since you are going through, developmentally, a stage where you may frequently think that you’re the only one that’s experiencing whatever you’re experiencing. Having a support group where other people look like you and experience the same thing as you is really important for health, well-being, development and sense of identity.”
Toomey’s findings, based on data from San Francisco State University’s Family Acceptance Project, will be published in the Journal of Homosexuality.
“Flash” Star Proudly Comes Out As Bisexual
From: Queerty
On the CW’s The Flash, Keiynan Lonsdale plays Wally West (aka Kid Flash), the younger brother of the titular Flash’s romantic interest, Iris West. Wally has super-speed powers akin to the Flash’s, and Lonsdale himself just made quite the leap of courage in real life — he came out as bisexual.
The 25-year-old Australian actor, who has also performed in ABC’s Dance Academy, The Divergent Series: Insurgent, and The Finest Hours, made the announcement via Instagram, writing, “I like to change my hair, I like to take risks with how I dress, I like girls, & I like guys (yes), I like growing, I like learning, I like who I am and I really like who I’m becoming.”
He added that he’s “spent way too many years hating myself, thinking I was less valuable because I was different,” and he’s tired “of being insecure, ashamed and scared.”
Here’s the full message via Instagram:
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That post has received over 78,000 likes and 5,500 comments, and Lonsdale acknowledged the overwhelming love on Twitter:
Nothing better than happy tears. The love is beyond measurable, thank you. Don't forget to give that same love back to yourselves x— Keiynan Lonsdale (@KeiynanLonsdale) May 13, 2017
We’ll add this Mother’s Day post he made immediately after on Instagram, because she deserves major credit for raising such a thoughtful, honest and proud son:
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Here’s some more from Lonsdale’s Insta just for good measure:
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“Big Bang Theory” Star Jim Parsons Marries Longtime Boyfriend
Jim Parsons and Todd Spiewak first started dating in 2002
From: NewNowNext
From: NewNowNext
The Big Bang Theory’s Jim Parsons tied the knot with his partner of 14 years Todd Spiewak in a private ceremony over the weekend.
The actor and graphic designer were married Saturday night at New York City’s Rainbow Room, Parsons’ rep confirmed to The Hollywood Reporter.
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The pair started dating in 2002, though Parsons wouldn’t officially come out until 2012 when an article in The New York Times said that his role in the stage production of The Normal Heart resonated with him because he was gay.
The couple first appeared on a red carpet together in 2013 when Parsons received the Inspiration Award from GLSEN. While the actor was proud of the honor, he later acknowledged that he’d never though of his relationship with Spiewak as something revolutionary.
“I’ve never considered myself an activist,” Parsons told E! Online at the time. “I’ve never considered my relationship with Todd to be an act of activism. Rather simply, it’s an act of love, coffee in the morning, going to work, washing the clothes, taking the dogs [out]—a regular life, boring love.”
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While he and Spiewak have kept their relationship out of the public eye, Parsons did take to Instagram this past November to commemorate their 14th anniversary.
“I met this guy (the one with the mic) 14 years ago today and it was the best thing that ever happened to me, no contest,” he wrote. “One of his greatest gifts to me is that he no longer takes me to sing karaoke.”
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Congratulations to the happy couple!
“American Gods” has broadcast mainstream TV’s most hardcore gay sex scene
From: Queerty
Sunday night, the series American Gods — based on Neil Gaiman’s Hugo and Nebula Award-winning novel — aired what’s being called “the single hottest and most pornographic gay sex scene ever put on mainstream television.”
The third episode’s romantic escapade between two Muslim male characters is one seriously gay water cooler moment.
The fantasy series follows gods of various ancient cultures as they face off with newer, American-born gods like Technology, Media, Celebrity, etc.
In Gaiman’s novel, a Muslim man named Salim (Omid Abtahi, Sleeper Cell) immigrates to New York City, where he winds up selling knick-knacks. He meets a Jinn (a spirit in Muslim mythology able to appear in human and animal form) taxi driver, and the two take off to a hotel room to have sex.
Executive Producer Bryan Fuller and cast members Abtahi and Mousa Kraishbtahi discussed the controversial episode with Entertainment Weekly, and you can watch that clip below:
The scene — which wasn’t included in the first cut of the episode — needed to be realistic, according to Fuller.
Talking to Vulture, he quipped
“I was like, ‘Okay, unless he has a 12-inch, candy-cane cock and can fuck around corners, his dick’s not getting in him. So you guys need to go back and figure out where holes are.”
The denizens of Twitter are very pleased, indeed:
I can't talk enough about that sex in American Gods, how gorgeous it was both visually and emotionally and how it was really truly hot— Rae Nudson (@rclnudson) May 15, 2017
AMERICAN GODS HAS A GAY SEX SCENE AND NEITHER OF THE MEN ARE WHITE. WE ARE BLESSED IN THIS HOME— ♌️j🌹 (@moongyaI) May 15, 2017
Gay sex with a genie...American Gods is wild— Mark (@McNuguid) May 15, 2017
@void_agent that quote makes me want to watch american gods bc if the dudes that serious about that sex scene then the rest of the shows gotta be okay— 👾Ghoulish Avery👾 (@ghostly_avery) May 15, 2017
Me, waiting patiently for someone to upload the Jinn/Salim sex scene from American Gods 🤔⏳ pic.twitter.com/wEQjIRaO1R— Wyatt (ʃƪ ˘ ³ ˘)♥🥔 (@kazewan) May 15, 2017
“13 Reasons Why” Costars Miles Heizer And Brandon Flynn Share A Kiss In The Emotional Short “Home Movies”
But they're definitely still not dating, right?
From: NewNowNext
From: NewNowNext
Weeks after 13 Reasons Why debuted on Netflix, rumors started to swirl that stars Miles Heizer (Alex Standall) and Brandon Flynn (Justin Foley) were an item in real life.
Though social media users were relentless in their shipping of the pair, Heizer’s rep eventually squashed the gossip, telling Page Six that the guys are friends, but definitely not dating.
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While some might’ve been disappointed at the news, fans were thrown a bone last week when it was discovered that Flynn and Heizer had worked together before starring as rivals on the popular Netflix series.
The duo both appear in Home Movies Pt. 1, a short directed by Kevin Rios and released on Vimeo two months ago. The project received an Honorable Mention for the Audience Award at Outfest’s Fusion Film Festival for its touching depictions of love between queer men.
In the video, Heizer and Flynn share a kiss, which inspired a bit of a frenzy on Twitter when the clip was unearthed.
MILES HEIZER AND BRANDON FLYNN KISSED PASS IT ON AND SPREAD THIS AROUND TO BLESS EVERYONE'S TIMELINE pic.twitter.com/WuaP3nTipt— 13 reasons why (@13RWbts) May 10, 2017
Whatever their relationship may be, there’s no denying that they’ve got some real chemistry.
‘Will & Grace’ Returns with Musical Episode in Full-Length Comeback Trailer
From: Cocktails and Cocktalk
Will & Grace has aired their first full trailer, and we are gagged! If y’all were ever in doubt that the cast would pull of an effective reunion, let your mind be at rest. The crew worked together like cookies and cream. Or blackouts and one-night stands. And they’ve pulled out all the original stops as the first episode is a musical extravaganza.
In the self-referencing video, Will tries to encourage Grace to star on the show again, which she’s apprehensive about – while boozy Karen awakes from a 10-year nap and Jack is still whoring himself around Manhattan… “See, nothing’s changed!”
History's 125 Hottest Gay-Porn Stars
From: Boy Culture
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Rafael Alencar
1978—
This Brazilian bombshell has made movies for the past 10+ years, and seems to get better-looking as he goes along. His most famous attribute might be his suspiciously gravity-defying buns, and yet his specialty is merciless pile-driving, as is most famously illustrated by his prison-shower schtupping of Johnny Rapid (who Timmy should stay away from to avoid falling down that well). He's shorter in real life than you'd think, but stands head-and-shoulders above most when lying on his back.
14 Young Artists Who Are Changing The Way We Think Of Gender
From: Queerty
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Kieran Strange
Kieran Strange has been compared to the lovechild of David Bowie, Tony Stark, Ramona Flowers, Hawkeye, and Tank Girl!
A self-professed “voice for the different and discarded,” Strange changed his preferred pronouns from “she” to “he” in the summer of 2016 when publicly adopting a transgender identity.
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