Earlier this year, Tom Daley publicly stated he’s not gay. What he didn’t say, and perhaps didn’t even know at the time, was that he’s somewhere along the spectrum of sexuality. The British diver revealed that he’s happily dating another man in a YouTube video released this Monday morning, specifying that he still “fancies” girls as well.
Now, I know what some of you are thinking—this is just a pit stop on the road to homosexuality. You may be right, you may be crazy. The fact of the matter is? That’s for Tom Daley to figure out on his own. Never once within this video does he state that he’s “gay”, yet for some reason, I wound up receiving no less than five e-mails with the subject heading “Tom Daley is gay” or some variation thereof.
It’s kind of an insult to anyone who identifies as bisexual, pansexual, questioning or curious to definitively state that being involved with a man automatically makes you “gay”. Human sexuality isn't so black and white! I think it’s time that we all acknowledge there’s some room for experimentation and other possibilities. This could be the first and only time Tom dates a guy, or it could be the stepping stone into a lifetime of butt sex. None of us know. And, frankly, at nineteen years-old, Tom Daley might not even know himself.
The bottom line (pun maybe intended) is that you shouldn't be a dick. Everyone comes to terms with their sexuality in a different way, and it’s such an annoyingly snarky response to say “told you so” or project your own close-minded views of bisexuality onto Tom’s personal experience. Let him exist. Let him explore. And let him decide what he is or isn't on his own damn schedule.
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