Ask QC: Scared of Losing Him

From:  Queer Click


Dear QC,

I have a dilemma that you guys might be able to help me out with. I'm 22 years old, out at college and at home and in a relationship with a guy who's a few years older at 37. Age isn't an issue with either of us, and although we don't actually live together, we see each other regularly enough. I'm busy with college and working part time, he's busy with his work too, but we do see each other several times a week at his place, and the sex is great!

I'm definitely falling in love with him and I really want to take things further, and at least introduce him to my family and circle of friends. But here is my problem, he is still in the closet, and because of this he wont (or doesn't want to) meet my family or friends. At first it wasn't a problem, but now it's starting to become an issue between us. I've suggested he meets up with my family for dinner and I just introduce him as a friend, but he says everyone will know straight away that he is my lover. Do you think this is the case? He wants to keep things just as they are so I'm caught between pushing him into something he doesn't want to do (which I think will be good for him and the both of us) and risk losing him. Have you guys been in a situation like this, and if so, how did you deal with it, got any ideas or suggestions on how to move forward on this? I'm scared of losing him if I push him too far.

Thanks.
Caleb.


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