Ask QC: Curious Widower

From:  Queer Click
Dear QC:

I am a recent widower in my early 40's. My wife of 25 years was truly my better half and losing her I also lost myself. My wife knew of my curious feelings and fantasies of looking at other men. My wife knew I loved her with all my heart and that I just looked at other men because I was jealous of them. I have never pursued anything outside our wonderful and honesty-based marriage, although I did fantasize. It's been six weeks since her passing and now being alone, I know I will NEVER find another woman like her. In fact I'm not sure I want to look and wonder if it's time for me to explore those other feelings.

I have a doctor that is becoming as much of a friend as he is my doctor. I go to lunch with him and he seems to loosen up to where I can see a different side of him that when he's in the office. He claims he has a girlfriend and yet admits he has a feminine side. He is attractive and I have more than (friend) feelings for him. I want to get closer to him and have more physical contact with him but am afraid to scare him off. If I scare him off then it would be awkward to see him as my doctor. I feel he may be gay and say he has a girlfriend as a cover and I want to find out by kissing him and even satisfying him in other ways, but again, I'm afraid to scare him away. What do I do? Do I take the chance in scaring him away and losing a doctor?

Curious and Confused


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